Look for the higher nature in anyone, the grandeur of any living being.
Prepare yourself for tremendous relationships
Never give up on anyone
Look upon harm-doers with the eyes of a mother
Do not take advantage of anyone
Never humiliate another person
Instead of fighting those causing harm, try help them
Always decide to use humble love
Do not pursue your own interests until the effects on others' outer and inner state are taken into account.
Look for the higher nature in anyone, the grandeur of any living being
Be faithful to all relationships
Find the totality of another person.
Do not take advantage of anyone
"I will not deceive, or cause to be deceived, any human being for my gain or pleasure; nor hurt, or cause to be hurt, any human being for my gain or pleasure; nor rob, or cause to be robbed, any human being for my gain or pleasure.” John Ruskin, Fors Clavigera
Find out how you agree with others, not on how you differ
“At every moment of our lives we should be trying to find out, not in what we differ from other people, but in what we agree with them; and the moment we find we can agree as to anything that should be done, kind or good, (and who but fools couldn’t?) then do it; push at it together.” John Ruskin
Always decide to use humble love
“At some thoughts one stands perplexed, especially at the sight of men’s sin, and asks oneself whether one should use force of love and humility. Always decide to use humble love. If you resolve on that once and for all, you may subdue the whole world. Loving humility is marvelously strong, the strongest of all things, and there is nothing else like it.”
Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov, Conversations with Father Zossima, 238
Do not take advantage of others for your own benefit
Do not prosper at the expense of others.
Some things one should never do: Take advantage of other people, especially those who depend on you. Do not treat others as a means to an end, a way to satisfy your own needs.
Some things one should never think: To want a human being primarily as the means to satisfy a need. Do not take advantage of the feelings of another person (for example, in romantic love, sex or any kind of intimacy). Do not injure the integrity of another person.
Personal interests should never be pursued until the effects on others’ outer and inner state are taken into account.
Do not take advantage of anyone, especially those who depend on you. Do not xuse a human being primarily as the means to satisfy a need. Never damage another person, especially internally. Do not express contempt for or humiliate anyone.
"Most of us are lonely, and the older we get, the more lonely. We discover our emptiness, what it means to be lonely, to have no friend at all because you have led a superficial life and invested your thought, your feelings in another. Can you see all this and learn from it? Learn what it means to be lonely and not escape from it; look at it, live with it, see what is implied so that psychologically you depend on nobody. Then only will you know what it means to love."
Jiddu Krishnamurti
“What is important is to find out if you’re one of those with whom love wishes to dwell.”
Jiddu Krishnamurti
Relationship: Create a new Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day, Mother’s and Father’s Day champion a limited form of love. Don't cut yourself short. There is an even better kind of relationship.
Let’s find the core of the existing holidays: nurturing each other, helping each other, learning about each other. Fight the idealization of romantic love. Bring together two souls for the elaboration of the good. Defend the possibility of true friendship!
– Ask for depth in every relationship, at least a little.
– Look upon harm-doers with the eyes of a mother.
– Be faithful to all relationships and never give up on anyone.
– Support anyone who is sensitive to life.
– Learn to see all children as your own.
– Spending more than fifty percent of your time or energy on a personal relationship is a crime against humanity.
New Valentine’s Day presents the Visionary Friendship pledge, which is relationship without idolatry. Friendshape your friendships. Give your heart to humanity!
Can we construct a practical spirituality for the disaffected modern life?
Are you fed up with politics, but still want to be involved in the issues of the day? Is government that recognizes heart and soul possible?
