Relationship is not possible where there is greed, ambition and hope

Relationship is not possible where there is greed, ambition and hope. Love comes only when the mind is quiet…If you have no love, you cannot resolve any social problem. You can go into politics, exhibit faith, try to reform the poor, write books or poems, but you are a dead human being.

Life is a movement in relationship. Relationship is not possible where there is self-seeking. Self-seeking includes fear, greed, envy, jealousy, ambition, despair and hope. Using another person as the means for your own happiness creates conflict and confusion. An image of someone – thoughts, experiences, hope – is not relationship. Only the person who understands the whole structure and process of society, and is freeing himself from it, has character, and he alone can flower in goodness.

If you have no love, you cannot resolve any social problem. You can go into politics, exhibit faith, try to reform the poor, write books or poems, but you are a dead human being. Any form of compulsion, however subtle, does not bring beauty or compassion. There must be freedom, freedom from compulsion. Love comes only when the mind is very quiet, disinterested, not self-centered. This is communion.

When the means of my happiness is a living person, then the conflict and confusion, the antagonism and pain are far greater. If relationship is based on mere usage, is there any relationship, except the most superficial, between the user and the used? If I use you for my happiness, am I really related to you? Relationship implies communion with another on different levels; and is there communion with another when he is only a tool, a means of my happiness? In thus using another, am I not really seeking self-isolation, in which I think I shall by happy? This self-isolation I call relationship; but actually there is no communion in this process. Communion can exist only where there is no fear; and there is gnawing fear and pain where there is usage and so dependence. As nothing can live in isolation, the attempts of the mind to isolate itself lead to its own frustration and misery.

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Why the Chosen Ones Walk Alone

Why do those who see beyond society’s illusions often find themselves alone? They are not enchanted by the games of status, gossip, or the endless pursuit of things that will one day fade into dust and this makes them strange to the world.

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Apprehend and affirm others as a whole

“You is more than It knows. You does more, and more happens to it, than It knows. No deception reaches this far: here is the cradle of actual life.”
“I do not find the human being to whom I say You in any Sometime and Somewhere. I can place him there and have to do this again and again, but immediately he becomes as He or a She, an It, and no longer remains my You.”
“The You encounters me by grace – it cannot be found by seeking. But that I speak the basic word to it is a deed of my whole being, it is my essential deed. The You encounters me. But I enter into a direct relationship to it....I require a You to become; becoming I, I say You. All actual life is encounter.”

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